Sportsmanship & Fair Play



  • Visiting team members, student and adult spectators are guests and are given the courtesy and consideration that a well-mannered host would give.
  • The visitors in turn are to act as invited guests using the home school’s facilities with care while respecting the rules and customs of the home school.
  • Officials are the proper authorities to make decisions regarding rules and their interpretations and decisions should be accepted.
  • Spectators, student-athletes and coaches must recognize that their conduct play an important role in establishing the reputation of their school and that their actions can relate directly to the success of the team.
  • Appropriate supervision will be provided for Southold home contests.
  • Southold School’s Interscholastic Athletic Code and Code of Conduct must be adhered to by student-athletes at all times.





·        Maintain a “Fun is #1” attitude.

·        Treat others as you wish to be treated.

·        Praise athletes for just participating, regardless of their athletic skills.

·        Look for positives in athletes; avoid ridicule or sarcasm.

·        Remain calm when mistakes happen, and help athletes learn form mistakes.

·        Help athletes from getting down on themselves when things don’t go well.

·        Don’t be obsessed with your involvement in sports.  There is a life after sports.

·        Maintain a sense of humor.

·        Emphasize teamwork in team sports; teach them to think “we” instead of “me.”

·        Lead by setting a good example in sportsmanship: winning without gloating and losing without complaining.





·        Spectators are an important part of the game and should at all times conform to accepted standards of good sportsmanship and behavior.

·        Spectators should at all times respect officials, coaches and players as guests in the community and extend all courtesies to them.

·        Enthusiastic and wholesome cheering is encouraged.

·        Booing, stamping of the feet, and disrespectful remarks should be avoided.

·        Bells, whistles, or noisemakers of any kind are acceptable and proper for outdoor athletic events, but not for indoor athletic activities.

·        During the free throw in basketball, there should be absolute quiet.

·        Spectators should encourage all people to observe this league’s Code of Ethics.  Those who do not respond should be reported to the proper school authorities immediately.

·        Spectators should observe and obey the rules and regulations of the school concerning smoking, food and soft drink consumption, use of lavatory facilities and parking of cars.

·        New York State Law prohibits alcoholic beverages of any kind on school property; the law further prohibits any person under the influence of alcohol to be on school property.

·        Spectators should respect and obey all school officials, marshals and police at all athletic contests.

·        For flagrant or repeated violations of the Code, spectators will be evicted from the area.


Additional Suggestions


·        Remain seated in spectator areas during competition.

·        Do not coach your child during the contest.  Be willing to let the coach be responsible for your child during the contest.






Any member of a squad removed from a contest for unsportsmanship conduct or a flagrant foul shall not participate in that sport in the next scheduled contest or in New York State Public High School Association tournament play.  Disqualifications from one season carry over to the next season of participation.


Any member of the squad who strikes, shoves, kicks, or makes other physical contact with the intent to do so to an official shall be expelled form the game immediately and banned from further participation in all sports for one year from the date of the offense.  NOTE: a member of the squad includes coach, player, manager, scorekeepers, timers, statisticians.


A player or coach who has been suspended from play may not be present on the school grounds where the contest is played.  There is no appeal to the New York StatePublic High School Athletic Association/Section XI Misconduct Rule.  The official’s rule is final and not subject to question.


NOTE:  The Southold School District reserves the right to impose additional consequences which may result in a longer suspension from contests and/or dismissal from the team by the coach or administration.


If a student-athlete/coach receives a card, technical unsportsmanship like conduct, the Athletic Director will address this with the individual.





As your child becomes involved in the Southold Athletic Program, they will experience some of the most rewarding times of their lives.  However, there may be times that things don’t go exactly the way they want.


The concerns that are appropriate to discuss with the coach:


·        Treatment of your child, emotionally and physically

·        Ways to help your child improve

·        Concerns relating to your child’s behavior, conduct and scholastic issues

·        Scheduling of practices on weekends and/or vacations.


Areas which are not negotiable:


·        Playing time

·        Team strategy

·        Play calling

·        Discussion of other student-athletes


If a student is dissatisfied, we encourage that he or she meet with the coach to discuss the situation.  This measure is a lifelong strategy that all of us will have to address in our lives.


If dissatisfaction continues, the parent should call the coach to set up an appointment to discuss the concerns with all in attendance- parent, coach and student athlete.


Before or after a game or practice, it is not advised to confront a coach relating to unresolved issues.  These can be emotional times for all parties and meeting of this nature do not promote resolutions.  Give yourself a day to reflect and then make the phone call.


If there is not a resolution between the coach, parent and team-athlete, you may call the Athletic Director for an appointment to discuss the concern.